Afternoon tea at The Clifton Arms, Lytham // 18 for 2018

Afternoon tea - one of my 18 for 2018

At the beginning of the year I wrote a post all about my goals and plans for 2018. I came up with 18 things that I wanted to do or achieve this year, and one of them was to have afternoon tea. A lot of people who read the post seemed amazed that I had got to the age of 39 and never had afternoon tea. What is perhaps even more surprising is that my mum had managed to get to 75 and never had afternoon tea either! So we decided it was time we did something about it! Read more

The best thing about being a mum is…

I was asked to write a guest post for the Relationships Scotland blog about the best thing about being a mum and I thought I’d share it with you here.

What is the best thing about being a mum?

Wow. This is actually a hard question to answer. There are so many great things about being a mum. But there are so many difficult things too.

I’m sure the best things about being a mum change as your child (or children) get older. On Mother’s Day this year my baby boy Toby will be eight and a half months old and it will be my first Mother’s Day as a mum myself. It’s never really been a day I’ve paid much attention to – I always send my mum a card and give her a ring on the day, and I seem to remember once sending her flowers when I was working in France, but I’ve never really bought my mum a present for Mother’s Day. And as my parents live 250 miles away I don’t usually see her either. Even as a mum myself I’m not that bothered about Mother’s Day. I know that in the UK it’s actually based on the Christian festival of Mothering Sunday but I tend to see it as another one of those ‘Hallmark Holidays’ that has been over commercialised to the point of taking any meaning away from it. Saying that I know I’ll be a bit miffed if I don’t get a card from Toby (although I think his dad might have to do a bit of the organisation on that one!) and I know my mum would be upset if I didn’t send her a card too.

But appreciation isn’t why we become mums. Crikey, if it was I don’t think anyone would ever have kids! So why do we do it? What is the best thing about being a mum? I can’t think of just one so I’m going to tell you a few of the things I love about being a mum, even though I’ve only been one for eight months.

I love that between me and my husband we created a whole new human being, and every time I look at Toby it amazes me.

I love the grin he gives me when I go into his room in the morning.

I love that when he’s upset or grumpy then cuddles with me will always make him feel better.

I love watching him concentrate on a new toy, or when he’s working out how to do something.

I love seeing him learn new things every day.

I love that, for now, me and his daddy are his whole world; that we are the only people he needs.

I love watching him with his daddy and seeing how the two boys I love most in the world love each other too.

I love making him giggle just by making silly noises or pulling a face.

I love spending time with my baby every day…..and I love it when he sleeps and I get a few minutes to myself!

Being a mum is so much harder than I ever thought it would be but it is so rewarding too. The love you feel for your baby isn’t like anything you have ever felt before and I wouldn’t change it for anything.

Being a mum

This post first appeared at