Four month sleep regression. Is that even a real thing? I heard about it but naively thought that I have a baby who sleeps, it won’t affect us. Oh how quickly things can change. It was only two weeks ago that I was writing on this very blog, smug as you like, about my wonderful baby who regularly sleeps 14 hours a night.
Then last week Toby had his third set of immunisations. No problem, I thought. He was fine after the first two lots, why should this time be any different? So we put him to bed as usual. And then he woke up and wouldn’t settle until he was fed. Then he woke up again. A cuddle this time and he went back to sleep. Then he woke up again. Another feed, some Calpol, and the snot sucked out of his nose. Back to sleep. Awake again. Dad settled him with a cuddle and a bit of rocking. 5 am. Awake again, a dirty nappy. Another feed. More snot. Eventually back to sleep. Then my alarm goes off. Of all the days, I was going to work for my first Keeping In Touch day!
Suffice to say we had a bit of a bad night. I just thought though that it was a combination of his injections and a cold. So while I went to work Toby had a quiet day at home with his dad. We bought a Calpol plug in vapour thingy and for the next three nights normal service was resumed. But then on Monday night Toby woke at 3:30 am and wouldn’t go back to sleep without a feed. Last night he woke up at 12:30 am and I ended up feeding him again. And he’s been properly hungry, finishing whole bottles. Last night he woke up crying again at about half three but by the time I had got up to go to him he was back asleep again. We are lucky that when he does properly wake up he does tend to go straight back to sleep on his own once he’s been fed so I’m usually only up for about 20 minutes at the most. But it’s 20 minutes I’d rather be in bed! Especially seeing as Toby was kind enough to pass on his cold to me! On the plus side the napping situation has improved quite a lot over the last few weeks and we’re usually getting a decent afternoon nap in now (sometimes both of us!).
So what’s happening? Is it a growth spurt? A sleep regression? A wonder week? Who knows?! Toby does seem to be making more developments at the moment. He sat up on his own without toppling over on Monday. He’s almost found his feet. (He also found his willy getting changed after swimming today!). He’s babbling a lot more than before too. So hopefully this is just a bit of a developmental phase he’s going through and soon things will go back to normal. For now I’m just going to try and go with it. I’m going to try and get some more milk in him during the day, although that’s sometimes easier said than done. Toby can be quite stubborn if he doesn’t want to eat. And if he wakes up in the night hungry I’ll feed him and put him back to bed. I’m reluctant to introduce a dream feed when he was managing fine without before. When we tried it before it never made him sleep any longer anyway and I’m of the mind that waking a baby when you want him to be asleep is just counter-intuitive.
Anyway, any advice or even reassurance that things can get back to normal would be gratefully received at this point. After six weeks of full nights’ sleep all this getting up business really is making for a tired and grumpy mummy!
It does sound like a growth spurt. All of my kids would easily go back to sleep after a feed when one was going on.
I’m surprised that the doctor did immunizations if Toby was sick; they will not do them here if the child isn’t 100% well.
He didn’t get the cold until later that day – seemed perfectly fine when he had the injections. And fingers crossed it’s just a growth spurt and things get back to normal soon!
Firstly – Toby is so cute!
Secondly, don’t fret too much – I know you want answers but this sort of things happens one week and then you’re back to normal the next. A cold really knocks the routine out. Just remember it’s not forever 🙂 xx
Thanks Hannah – I know we’ve just got to roll with it for now. I think it’s just a shock to the system again after him sleeping so well for ages!!
L has gone through this exact thing. We are now at five months, coming out the other side. We started at three months after last jabs and when we went on holiday. We went from sleeping 7-4/5 to waking at 11, 2, 5 all for feeds 🙁 we did do a dream feed but properly dreamy. We don’t wake her up for it. She has formula now at this feed as I can’t express enough and it means I can go to sleep earlier and hubby do it. I cut down my night feeds by minutes until when it was 3 mins I just stopped it. We used the dummy to settle her. Since dropping that feed she has done better but it still varies massively. She sometimes wakes before her dream feed so we occasionally feed her early. She wakes early between 5.30/6.30 for the day.
I hope you get through the phase quickly. #weekendbloghop
Thanks Rhi, it does make it better knowing it’s not just us! I’m sure things will settle down again soon… and then he’ll probably start teething and we’ll be back to square one! Nobody ever said being a parent was easy though did they?!
Sounds like a blip from the cold to me and then he has got into the habit of waking just as we do sometimes.I would try to minimise the time spent with him in the middle of the night to try and persuade his body it is not a fun time to be awake!
Thanks Fiona, I think he has still got a bit of the cold. We do just feed him and put him straight back in bed without even speaking to him hardly. That’s why I think he’s genuinely hungry at the moment rather than just after some comfort in the night. Hopefully things will get back to normal soon!