Choosing a baby name is possibly one of the most difficult decisions you’ll have to make. I always like to hear stories about how people chose their baby’s name so I thought I’d share with you how we found Toby’s name.
Before we had the 20 week scan and found out we were having a boy I had already thought of lots of names I liked but most of them were girls’ names. After the scan I still kept coming up with girl’s names but couldn’t really find any inspiration for boys’ names. There are so many things to think of when choosing a name for your baby and we knew there were a few things that were important to us…
- the name had to fit with our surname without sounding silly.
- we wanted a name that wasn’t too common but wasn’t outlandishly weird either!
- as a teacher there were loads of names I ruled out immediately as I associated them with particular kids (and usually not in a good way!)
- I wanted something quite short and easy to spell – I don’t see the point of making life difficult for your kids if you can help it!
Initially I would think of a name and then either forget it ten minutes later (blame baby brain!) or else remember it long enough to tell my husband…and then forget whether I had told him when I remembered it again two weeks later. So, at some point I decided to make a spreadsheet! Whenever I thought of a name I quite liked, or if Barry thought of one, then I would add it to the list with the intention that nearer the time we would go through it and see what we liked the sound of. Initially I seemed to come up with a lot of old Bible names; things like Issac, Caleb, Noah, Abe and Jacob. At some point I decided it would be nice to use my mum’s maiden name as a middle name (although I’m not going to tell you what it is – who knows who might want to hack my bank account!) so we needed to find a name that went with that as well as our surname. A bit later on in the pregnancy we decided we liked Rowan (although I wasn’t sure as one of my brother’s godsons has that name) and Robin and they were front runners for a while.
And then, one day when I was driving home from work I was listening to the Juno soundtrack in the car. There is a song on the soundtrack called Tire Swing by Kimya Dawson. There is a line in the song that says
I’ve never met a Toby that I didn’t like
And that was it. Toby it was. We already had a kind of connection to the Juno soundtrack as we walked back down the aisle after getting married to All I Want Is You. We actually kind of kept Robin as a back up until Toby was born but when the midwife asked my what the little boy in my arms was called I looked at Barry and just said Toby, and our boy had a name.
How did you choose your baby’s name? Does it have some family connection? Did it come out of a baby name book or come from somewhere else entirely? I’d love to hear your stories and I’ll be back soon with the story of Gabe’s name too.